Is it a womans job to do all of the cleaning even if she has a job???

My mother in law thinks it is my job to do all of the cleaning even though I have a job and all she does is play on the damn computer
Is it a womans job to do all of the cleaning even if she has a job???
You live with your mother in law? Nice.
Reply:If the house belongs to your mother-in-law, it's time to move. If the house is yours kick her to the curve. Your husband should be helping around the house also.
Reply:HELL NO! marriage is team work. if you were a stay at home wife, you should do the majority of the cleaning, still not all of it. but since you work, hell no.
Reply:If it is your house then it is your rules. tell her in her own house she is welcome to do and say anything that she wants and believes, But in your home it is you that makes the decisions as far as house work is done and if that means delegating it to others, because you are working and bringing in money then delegate with out guilt, you are right and she is not
Reply:No! Everything should always be split up, kinda like chores when you were younger. Yes, you should have to clean a little bit because you live there also, but everyone needs to chip in and help! Tell her to get her fat *** up off the computer and help!
Reply:Wrong!!!! When you work outside of the home, especially, the housework is a joint effort between ALL occupants!!!
Reply:NO! Leave those old stereotypes behind! Please don't worry about what your mother in law thinks- It's more important that you %26amp; your partner agree on what works best for your household.





Divide and Conquer is the rule at our house! With both people working, it' s the only way to go... but a word of advice -clearly define each persons roles - otherwise it can get messy- trust me.





My husband is in charge of all of the household wash ( mostly because he likes things folded a certain way), taking out the trash and taking care of our pet cat (since he brought the stray home from work one afternoon). He also helps with food shopping on occasion too.





Talk about what each of you likes and dislikes about housework and divide accordingly. It will certainly help if you work together on this one.
Reply:Ahhhh? am I missing part of this? What does the Mother-In-Law have to do with this? If your both working outside the home then by all means both work to make a home run smoothly. It should be a 50/50 proposition on the cooking, cleaning, laundry and kids. He works 5 mins from the house an 8 to 6 with lunch time coming home. I work on the road, some days 15 hours, I make my own work schedule. We share in everything. On weekends we do the shopping and the heavy cleaning, thru the week we do laundry and dishes and general pick up as well as cooking. Over the last 4 years we have gotten it down better and better as to who does what, but on the whole we share it all.
Reply:Tell her to clean it if she's so concerned. If she doesn't pay any of your bills she has nothing to say if you don't clean for a year. Now if she doesn't like that then tell her to keep her f...ing mouth closed.
Reply:No you shouldn't and what else is she doing that she can't help. What is your husband doing besides work that he can't help? tell your husband to tell her to keep opinions on how you run your household to herself. I can't stand meddling mom-in-laws. Some of them really need a hobby besides meddling.
Reply:Nope. If your working the house work should be 50/50.
Reply:It depends how you set up your agreement.
Reply:Tell her that if she does not keep her mouth shut you will disconnect the Internet service.
Reply:OK where is the hubby in all this and why isn't he helping do any of the housework??
Reply:She must have bumped her head.
Reply:Well if you are living under her roof and she is paying the bills i would agree... she should help though but manly i would think you should...





move out if it bothers you..
Reply:It depends on the agreement between the husband and wife on how to divide responsibilities at home. My husband and I both work, we have a maid come in 2x/month, so we don't have to worry about cleaning too much. I do all of the day-to-day stuff like cooking, dishes and laundry - and he does the rest (electrical work, plumbing, home improvement projects, fixing things, maintaining electronics and computers, general financial management, paying bills, I could go on). I think, I've got a great deal here, I'll do dishes any day of the week instead of crawling in the attic pulling cable for the new lighting system.





Your MIL should butt out of your life, as should you out of hers (if she wants to play on the computer all day it's her business). Your husband is the one you should be making an agreement with re. your household chores; what your MIL thinks about it - doesn't really matter.
Reply:does your MIL live with you guys? WTF????


and no, you shouldnt do all the cleaning if you have a full time job but... do you help paying bills/rent etc? because if you dont, then you kinda have to do all the cleaning.
Reply:HELL NO LET HER CLEAN IF SHE LIVES WITH U AND IF HER SON LIVES WITH U LET HIM CLEAN **** IT'S A 50/50 THING IF NOT GO ON STRIKE. THAT ALWAYS WORKS 4 ME WHEN NO ONE WANTS 2 HELP ME CLEAN. JUST CLEAN UR STUFF AND 4 GET ABOUT EVERYBODY ELSE UNLESS U HAVE A LITTLE BABY. U DO THERE CLEANING 2.
Reply:number one that there no way in hell my wife's mother will be living with us...... and number 2 is that i clean my house even if my wife can do some but she does most work with kids and i clean the house and I do spend alot time with wife and kids .... so ummmm. again no way in hell mother in law living with me and kids.... too much plm and i can set her outside with tent, campfire, other stuff.
Reply:hell no he can help or be gone
Reply:I do most of the cleaning at our home, but my husband pays for everything so I don't mind.
Reply:What decade is she stuck in?!!! That is such a ridiculous statement. I would just ignore her comments and tell her to mind her own business. You will clean if and when you feel like it.
Reply:No, it is not. If both people work in a marriage then it is both of their responsibility. Now if the woman wants to take on that burden of cleaning the house, then that's fine or vice versa. But if the woman doesn't work and her husband brings home the paycheck then out of courtesy the woman should want to keep the house clean and have a hot meal for her husband.
Reply:No, it's not. Your mother in law sounds very lazy. And she qualifies as a woman, so put her to work.
Reply:Sounds like your mother in law is stuck in the ice ages. Back in the day, thats how it was, but times have changed, and woman have more responsability nowdays. your mother in law is just an old fassioned person, but it dosnt mean you have to be one too. Everyone should lend a helping hand in the home.
Reply:Tell her to get off her duff. Or kick her out..unless you are the ones living with her in which case i would say pick up after yourselves...dont pick up her stuff...
Reply:Do you live with her?


If not, i think your mother-in-law should mind her business.


Chores should be divided up and if you and your husband both work then you should both do your fair share.


I say this but i can't get my husband to do crap! But my mother-in-law stays out of it.
Reply:My wife and I both work. We split the housework based upon who is busy at the time.
Reply:What is your mother law doing liveing with you first of all. And if its a womans job then she can get up and do it.
Reply:No it is not the woman's job to do all the cleaning . I am a older woman with grown children and I hold a full time job , my husband is disabled , he does a lot of the cleaning , all the laundry, and I do most of the cooking if I feel like it and if I don't we have sandwiches or frozen dinners or go out to eat. My husband never complains about this and he says he feels like he should do more and would if he could.